How to Support a Friend Going Through Loss

When someone close to you loses a pregnancy, it can be hard to know what to say. You might fear saying the wrong thing or feel helpless in the face of such deep pain. But your presence—more than your perfection—is what matters most.

Start by acknowledging the loss. A simple “I’m so sorry. I’m here for you” means more than silence. Avoid clichés like “everything happens for a reason,” which can feel dismissive.

Offer specific, tangible help. Rather than saying “Let me know if you need anything,” try, “Can I bring you dinner this week?” or “Would you like to take a walk together?” Concrete gestures show you care.

Remember to keep showing up. Grief doesn’t end after a few weeks. Check in on important dates like the due date or anniversary. Send a card, a text, or even just a heart emoji. These small acts say: “I haven’t forgotten.”

Supporting a grieving friend means standing with them through the long haul—not just the crisis.

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